Guido: Manuela, when I read your mail, my tears came to me.
Manuela Buyny: Oh, honest?But why?
That picked me up so much.I had to call Frank immediately and read your words: "Some ask: Why does the colors not dressed in covered colors?But I also want to be perceived like everyone else.Souls are not wrong and have no wrinkles."For me a sentence for the Federal Cross of Merit.Yes, there is this handicap on the outside, but inside I have the same needs as any other woman.I want to be nice too!So I had to write to you: Everyone gets a forum in magazines - thick, thin, large, small, but people with a handicap you hardly ever see.
That's correct.We healthy forgot too often how many people have physical problems.Tell me what happened to you as a child.With me the scoliosis, a lateral curvature of the spine, at the age of ten, came almost overnight: at Easter I was still completely straight, my whole body was wrong in summer.Not even my belly button was still sitting where it should.I had shoulders and a rib hump.The bell from Notre-Dame was nothing against me.
insanity.How did you feel about it: Did you experience yourself as a disappointment?You want to look like everyone as a little girl ... I got a corset as a support at the time, that was terribly embarrassing to me.I always stuffed it into the bushes in front of the school.But the biggest cut came for me at 13.At that time I went to a surgeon alone because my mother had shift work.I still know that I had made myself chic, with a pants suit and my first high shoes.So I proudly went into practice, when the doctor said: "Well, girl, then let yourself be enrolled into the book of the crippled."
He can't have said that!That burns into the soul like a tattoo.Oh yeah.I later stood at the tram stop and wondered if I wouldn't throw myself in front of the next train.This sentence followed me for decades.After that, I often bought clothes too big to hide in it.
At that time you just came to puberty, and then the doctor takes you every base. So nach dem Motto: „Wie will die Krumme je einen Typen finden?" Unmöglich.I didn't feel mentally like after that.When I was 14 I came to the hospital for a year in a stretch bed, at 15 I was operated on ten hours.My spine has been straightened with a metal stick and partially stiffened.After that I was less crooked and the hump was significantly smaller.
What a redemption! Definitely.From then on I was able to help myself with clothes.My mother was a dressmaker, she sewed suitable clothes for me and showed me, for example, that I look straight if I only wear a shoulder pad on one side.Fashion always helped me a lot to look normal.
Some say yes, fashion is superfluous.What a crap!In that case, fashion can save a.For example, today you wear a pleated skirt.It's great for you because he jumps through the world so beautifully.The unrest distracts from everything else.Yes, now I know the tricks: I know that I shouldn't emphasize my waist and best wear a jacket over a skirt.Width belts or a deep back neckline do not go.And figure -hugging clothes do not do anything for me either.They always said: "You can never get children!"I did it anyway and the pregnancy went very well.
In contrast, marl pants would be great.Or are pants to put on badly for you? Pants go.It is more difficult to get into tights in winter.My toes are unfortunately distant galaxies for me.
And how do you do that when buying shoes? I always have to take someone with me because I can't do that alone.There are no longer any specialist sellers who help you in the shop.
Such an al bundy with a bench ... so you only buy shoes to slip in? No.If I want sneakers, I take elastic shoe straps and put them in.At home I have a gripping pliers with which I can put on my shoes alone.
Everything practically solved.And you tell it so happily.When I listen to you, it shows again: the really great freedom is in yourself - whether you accept that you are as you are.It depends on it.But that was not easy for me.There were many ups and downs: for example, I was even in a wheelchair in 2017/2018 because I could no longer run in pain.I wasted 40 years of my life to want to look normal.
Having pain is terrible.I know that from Frank, who unfortunately inherited his mother's arthrosis.At that time a doctor told me that my pain was chronic, they would never go away anymore.I let myself be operated on for hours two years ago.Since then my spine has been completely stiffened, but I can run and am painless!After the second operation, I only ran through the world with a grin.
You have wandered a lot.Today you don't see anything anymore.In any case, I first noticed your fine face, which could date from another century.With your lucks you could have hanged out with a chocolate in Versailles..Well, if I get up and go right away, you will see that I keep myself different.Like Robot-Woman.
Oh, you have become a beautiful and confident woman haute yes.But I wasted 40 years of my life to want to look normal.Nobody should tell me something.It only clicked for me at over 50.As a civil servant in the administration of the German Bundestag, one day I had to go over to the Reichstag building with large, sporty colleagues.When the briskly march off, I called: "Damn again, now please go slower!I am disabled and can't be faster.Take care, or I will come after in half an hour."
Yes, Halleluja!This is the advantage of getting older: you don't get more or more tighter, but suddenly you can say other people what fits you and what doesn't.Since I have taken on as I am, I have continuously lost 15 kilos without doing anything for it.I no longer needed a protective tank.At some point you understand: everyone has a shortcoming and does not like something in themselves.If you only have a little breast or a thick butt, you will conceal it too.
What I don't understand ... People have forgotten that there is a diversity a gift.Therefore: if you have one too thick butt, wobble with it instead of hiding it.Better bind a belt around your waist and off it.I only saw an Instagram account yesterday from a woman who lost her legs two years ago.A beauty that has engaged to her new life and posts today via her handicap.
Great!If I look at the healing insta world, I'm bad after ten minutes. Ich denke dann immer: „Guido, wie siehst du nur aus? Du kannst nicht rückwärts die Wand hochlaufen oder mit deiner Mutter Breakdance machen …" Was für eine Fake Welt! Denn die Wahrheit ist doch: Dann habe ich eben dicke Beinchen, aber wenn die mich überallhin tragen, muss ich nicht traurig sein.Every wheelchair driver would like to swap my legs immediately, think that! Sure, every cellulite would not matter if they could just run.Perhaps healthy people should think about this if they don't find themselves perfect enough for any man again.
Wie war das überhaupt für dich in Richtung Liebe? Hast du je einen Mann angesprochen?Ich habe mich nie auf einen wirklich gut aussehenden Typen eingelassen, weil ich immer dachte: Was will so einer schon von mir? Meine Freundin meinte dann oft: „Hast du dir wieder einen aus dem Gruselkabinett geangelt?" Dabei war für Männer mein Rücken nie ein Thema.I am currently single and care for my 87-year-old mother.No time for a man.
Without the stupid doctor you might have found one who would still jump around you today.But you have a daughter, right? Yes, against every advice from the doctors. Die haben immer gesagt: „Kinder kriegen dürfen Sie nie!" Ich habe es trotzdem gemacht, und die Schwangerschaft verlief sehr gut.
What does your daughter do professionally? She has become a doctor, works as an anesthetist in the intensive care unit and in the operating room.She used to be a long competitive athlete in figure skating.
Oh how beautiful!Then she ran the freestyle that you couldn't run ... No, I would have preferred to run roller skate myself if I had cooled.With my daughter, scoliosis was also diagnosed as a child, and then the doctor said: “Send them to figure skill.She has to keep balance, that helps." Und so war es: Die Skoliose ist heute weg.I had been forbidden to do sports as a child.
But you never gave up.And that's why I wanted to meet you.I think it's not about whether I map fashion for rolleries.It's about showing how important it is to accept his fate and make the best of it.You can be a role model for many.Also on Instagram.Are there already scolio groups? Yes, but this is only about serious things like the right treatment, the best mattress, which office chair, etc..Not about fashion tips, which is a shame.
